"Maybe I should quit my job.
I heard this not from one, but from two executive coaching clients last week. Both are very successful. Both enjoy some aspects of their job, but find others almost unbearable. And both have families to support, so quitting smoking is not a problem. not something they would do therea slight.
Joelle, a partner in an international consulting firm, enjoys working with clients and appreciates the substance of her work, but finds 24/7 responsiveness incompatible with being the parent and spouse who she wants to be. Meanwhile, Boris, a senior strategist at a pharmaceutical company, is passionate about bringing therapeutic drugs to market that can improve patients' lives, but his own health suffers from the stress of carrying too many high priority projects on his mind. shoulders.
Both feel at their wit's end and unable to continue on the current path. They are not alone, as the so-called large " resignation . But should they join the trend and give notice? Instead, I suggested that they "quit" the parts of the job that are not working for them andtrying to create a more sustainable way forward.
This reframing of their options appealed to both Joelle and Boris. This allowed them to envision possibilities that they had not been able to see before. Often times when we are stressed we fall into the cognitive distortion " binary thinking : either / or. In its extreme form, this black and white type of thinking can fuel anxiety, even panic; at a minimum, it lacks nuance and complexity. '1982 Clash punk anthem, my clients would ask: " Should- I "stay or should I go? " as if those were the only two options. Instead, I urged them to identify aspects of how they do their jobs that they can let go. If they could free themselves from some parts of their workparticularly vexatious and change of mind, while continuing to do valuable work and reap the rewards, perhaps they could find a third option.
Joelle has decided to abandon her permanent reactivity. She limited her window for reading emails, sorted more and ignored low priority requests ". Additionally, she stopped saying yes to most tasks office "mom " so that she could spend her time more productively. She also embraced the idea that when some behavior triggered a negative emotional reaction in her, she could declare "I'm leaving you" and let go of her anger. It was liberating.
Boris stopped thinking that it was his job to single-handedly lead three key company initiatives, each equivalent to a full-time position. Instead, he identified his top priorities and required resources and communicated them to his manager and cross-functional peers. In doing so, he revealed that there were systemic issues that needed to be addressed rather than trying to be the hero. He made a commitment to some results and broke away from others.
To take these steps, both had to be prepared to risk letting each other down. But once they faced the fact that they might indeed quit their jobs, they were less afraid of the consequences of disappointing their co-workers and bosses. What did they have to lose?
Have you thought about quitting your job? Before you throw in the towel, start by trying to make changes so that your workworks best for you. You will be more successful if you tackle both external (behavioral) and internal (state of mind / emotional) changes. Behavior changes can include giving up tasks or rejecting unrealistic expectations. Other "quits" can involve internal changes: dealing with your emotions more effectively, changing your state of mind, and practicing detachment. By taking back control of how you do your job, you can find significant relief from your suffering at work. The The "search indicates that an increase in Self-efficacy will reduce your risk of burnout. And even if you ultimately decide to quit, it is good practice to set some boundaries and expectations that you will probably need if you want to avoid this pattern in your life. your nextin employment.
What parts of your job do you want to quit?
… .. worry about working outside working hours
… ..check and respond to e-mails at any time of the day
… .. meetings without an agenda
… .. say yes to everything
… .. constant fire fighting
… .. toxic gossip
…. consuming my energy in things that i can't change
… .. put my life / relationships on hold
Quitting parts of your job will help you release some of the emotional load mental and take charge of the parts of your job that are under your control. It will also free up energy to do the rewarding and rewarding things, increase your productivity and positivity, and set a good example for others.
Give it a try. And if that doesn't work, there's always in fact shutdown.